Neil Patrick Harris: 'Being A Dad Isn't What I Thought!'

Tue, November 23, 2010 3:11pm EST by 7 Comments

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The How I Met Your Mother star is still warming up to the idea of parenthood. He complains that his new twins are fussing, crying and burping: “I’m just like a caregiver.”

Neil Patrick Harris and his partner, David Burtka, welcomed twins, Gideon Scott and Harper Grace via surrogate on October 12 and it seems like sleep deprivation might be getting to him! The How I Met Your Mother star sat down with the ladies of The Talk yesterday (Nov. 22) and he admitted that parenthood hasn’t been a walk in the park! “Everybody said, ‘You’re going to look into their eyes and you’re never going to feel love burst forth like you feel… I’m like, not so much,” Neil says. “I’m just a caregiver. They’re still so young.”

Neil says he is a bit tired…and punchy!

Although David had some baby practice with his ex-boyfriend’s twins, the couple is still struggling with their newborns’ fussing. “David and I thought it would be good to not swaddle them and to not pacify them and to have them figure stuff out on their own,” Neil explains. “And at this point we are like ‘Whatever it takes!’ A shot of whiskey, whatever you need just stop fussing.” No doubt the brand new dads love their children, but it is definitely a transition from being on your own to bringing home not one, but two new babies! “Once we got home it was a bit of a shock,” Neil admits.

Neil sings about shoes on Sesame Street!

Neil sees that Gideon and Harper have different personalities and he’s learning more about each baby every day. “Gideon, our son, he’s a great burper. He sleeps all the time,” Neil says. “Harper’s been a lot fussier. She’s had some sort of lower GI [gastrointestinal problem]. She’s always kind of working through something. It feels awful though, all you want as a parent is to make sure they’re OK and that they’re comfortable and they’re calm.” Neil and David have switched Harper from one formula to a hypoallergenic one and even took her to see a doctor. “We went to an osteopath,” he says. “[Harper] sort of snapped and is kind of a different person. Everything’s much better. I’m a huge fan of that!”

Even though Neil is having a rough go at being a new dad, we know once Gideon and Harper get a little bit older they will realize what an amazing dad they have — and by then we’re sure he’ll be much more fond of parenthood!

–Leigh Blickley

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Posted at 6:57 AM on May 2, 2011  

Hey, good to find smoenoe who agrees with me. GMTA.

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Posted at 11:49 AM on November 29, 2010  

Sounds like he should not have adopted the twins. Babies need cuddling if he were a women he would have those instincts. All I can tell him get those babies around some loving women so they will not have detachment issues.

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Posted at 10:38 AM on November 25, 2010  

In other words, Being a dad isn’t being a mom. Enough said.

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Posted at 10:29 AM on November 25, 2010  

David and I thought it would be good to not swaddle them and to not pacify them and to have them figure stuff out on their own,” Neil explains. —

Moms are best as moms. A child should have a mother and a father. A mother would never say what he said. Go ahead and be PC if you want. America’s children are the ones suffering with all these broken and made-up families.

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Posted at 11:09 AM on November 28, 2010  

Actually, a mother would say that. It is a well known child development philosophy known as “Ferberizing” where the child learns ways to pacify themselves rather than being totally dependent on an outside source to calm them. Many parents can’t handle letting their child cry, however, so they often end up just like these two, doing whatever they can to make their child feel better.

ALL new parents have a learning curve–theirs is just public. In order to make sure all kids have a chance to grow up healthy and happy we should support, rather than criticize new parents for who they are. They are just like the thousands of other new parents out there who could really just use a break.

Best of luck to the new parents, you’re going to be fine! But consider getting a babysitter and going to a hotel to get some sleep for a night :)

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Posted at 6:34 PM on December 1, 2010  

Get over it! America’s children are not suffering because they have same sex parents. How can you imply that broken families are all same sex couples when the divorce rate is 50%? That’s 50% of MEN and WOMEN being married….A child needs love no matter what sex it comes from! The children I feel bad for are the ones who are brought up by close minded people like you. They are the ones who will suffer!

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Posted at 7:28 AM on November 24, 2010  

he sounds like any other new mom….. hang in there!

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