LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Snoop On Your Man If You Suspect He's Cheating, Like Eva & Elin Did?

Mon, November 22, 2010 12:00pm EST by 5 Comments

Eva Longoria Parker discovered her hubby, Tony, was being unfaithful when she read his email. Is her snooping an invasion of privacy or validated by her discovery?

Eva Longoria Parker was being a total sneak when she made the ultimate relationship no-no of reading her husband’s email. I suspect that what she found made her wish she hadn’t pried in the first place – she realized he was cheating! But is it acceptable that she snooped because he was actually doing something wrong?

This is a TOTAL grey area. Of course it’s wrong to read your BF or husband’s emails. It’s an invasion of privacy, and indicates that you don’t trust him. But what if he’s unworthy of trust, like Tony Parker or Tiger Woods, whose then-wife, Elin Nordegren, found herself in a similar situation when the golf pro took a shady phone call (from mistress Rachel Uchitel), fell asleep, and left his phone unlocked – only to have Elin discover his infidelity in the form of seductive texts? Is it fair for these women to be kept in the dark?

Personally, I don’t condone reading your man’s emails in the slightest. If he doesn’t give you a reason to mistrust him, then fight your inner freak. You know, the one that refuses to believe he’s a good guy. Stop being suspicious and just roll with it – you’re probably doing your relationship harm by mistrusting him.

But what if he’s acting highly suspicious? Uh-uh, I still don’t recommend this kind of duplicity. However, if you find yourself in a situation like Eva’s, where Tony left his email open so that she could easily read a series of sexy texts between he and alleged mistress Erin Barry, well…I defy ANY woman to resist, especially if his behavior is strange and you want answers.

Regardless of whether he’s actually cheating or not, you’re not going to find anything good by snooping in your man’s phone or email. Guaranteed, he’ll have said SOMETHING that’s going to upset you…whether it be what he actually got up to that Friday night he said he was sick or how he REALLY feels about you.

Do what you think is right, ladies, but I think some things are better left unsaid.

Have you ever snooped through a boyfriend’s phone or email, HollywoodLifers? What was the outcome? Were you pleased/unhappy by what you found?


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Trust your inner freak

Posted at 2:12 PM on July 26, 2011  

I’m sorry but your “inner freak” is your gut feeling that something is/isn’t right!! I am a firm believer in trust your gut feeling!!! They always come with the “just ask and i will tell you” lie when in fact they will not!! So me being me will find the answers on my own! I will ask only ONCE and if the answer doesn’t calm that gut feeling i have, then i have to do whats necessary to keep from wasting my time!!

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Posted at 5:10 AM on April 14, 2011  

I dont understand why people need privacy when they are married – what’s the point of getting married then? Although you both have separate lives, the fact that you devoted yourselves to being each other’s ally mean that you dont have to keep anything anymore. Question – is there really something to keep from?

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truth always

Posted at 9:11 PM on November 23, 2010  

A married man should not be married if he has a problem with his wife looking at his emails or text messages or views her looking as an invasion of privacy!!!!!!!

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Posted at 8:03 PM on November 22, 2010  


This is the worst relationship advise I have ever seen. Fight your inner “Freak”?? What the voice inside that’s telling you what you already know that he’s untrustworthy or you would not be thinking it? I agree you don’t need to look at his phone, because you already know the answer. Make your decision to stay or run.

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Posted at 2:26 PM on November 22, 2010  

I don’t know what other women think, but making sure that a CHEATER is treated ethically wouldn’t be high up on my priority list ! Some good did come from snooping…Eva found out the truth. Hit the road Jack !

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