LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Should You Ever Forgive Your Man For Cheating, Like Eva Did With Tony?

Thu, November 18, 2010 10:14am EDT by 4 Comments
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Eva Longoria knew her husband cheated during their marriage — and gave him a second shot at love. Should she have?

There’s an old adage that goes ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ and I firmly believe that. Unfortunately, so should have Eva Longoria Parker, who, blinded by love and a desire to make things work, admitted that she forgave hubby Tony Parker for cheating early in their marriage only to have him do it again; the two are now divorcing. Should you ever take forgive your man for being unfaithful?

Here’s the problem: at some point or another, every man has cheated in some capacity. He may have simply thought about sleeping with another woman instead of actually doing it, may have kissed someone else drunkenly during a night on the town, or he may have completely fallen head over heels for someone else. There are varying degrees.

Tony slept with another woman early in the couple’s three-year marriage, but the Desperate Housewives star is now divorcing him for exchanging hundreds of texts with a former teammate’s wife. He may not have actually been unfaithful per se the second time around, but the emotional infidelity was too much for Eva to handle — and rightfully so. Why sit back and painfully wait for the inevitable to happen?

Be wary if you decided to forgive your man for cheating. As contrite as he might be, he still knows he’s got another shot…you took him back once, and you might do it again. For your sake, I say kick him to the curb! He doesn’t deserve your mercy.

Have you ever been cheated on, HollywoodLifers? Did you take him back? If so, did he do it again? Tell me your stories below!

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Gail

Posted at 3:49 PM on November 27, 2010  

A marriage is an investment. it makes sense that a spouse would want to give a second chance. But, if they cheat once they will do it again. It may not be a “pattern”, but if an opportunity came, and they think they wont get caught, they will do it again. The spouse needs to decide if this is something they could handle in the possiblity that it did happen again. Women, especially, often overlook red flags in a relationship. When they get married they are “shocked” that he cheated. Women need to be honest with themselves and stop thinking marriage to be a “happily ever after” fantasy. It takes more than love to make a marriage work. It has a lot to do with the character of the person, and their level of maturity.

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lolanyc

Posted at 5:10 PM on November 18, 2010  

no u should never forgive a man for cheating. U need to dump him right away.. you know why??? because if u cheated on him he would dump u in 2 seconds flat!!! No man EVER puts up with that. And its true once a cheater always a cheater..If he cheated on u once he’ll do it again. he has no soul. Good for her getting rid of him.

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Kelly

Posted at 10:34 AM on November 19, 2010  

lighten up women, is cheating the worst thing a guy can do? It seems like you girls think it’s worse than rape or murder. It’s sex, big f’ing deal. Sometimes it’s more but then there are problems between the two much more than sex and they maybe should have never been together anyways.

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Gail

Posted at 4:00 PM on November 27, 2010  

Its about lying, not that cheating is worse than murder. An authentic relationship is based on trust. Can you trust someone who lies to you? Any lie puts a tear in the fabric of a marriage and needs to be repaired. But, lying about sex is not like a casual lie. It takes forethought. He is giving away a part of himself to another person. I beleive that anyone who thinks that sex is just a physical act should not get married. Sexual energy is much more than physical, but also emotional and spiritual. It should not be something shameful. If cheating was just physical why do people try so hard to hide it?

 
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