LAURA'S LOVE LIFE ADVICE: Will A Marriage Last Longer When You've Been Dating For a Long Time Like Nick & Vanessa Or Kate & William?

Mon, November 8, 2010 12:38pm EST by 3 Comments
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Does your marriage have a better chance of survival if you’ve been together forever, like Prince William and Kate Middleton’s staggering eight-year courtship?

The divorce rate in America is a staggering 50% for each couple that tries to give marriage a go, but do relationships have a better chance of survival when you’ve been together for a lengthier period of time? To couples like the newly engaged Nick Lachey and Vanessa Minnillo – kudos to you, your love has a better shot of going the distance!

Although couples like Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom – who became engaged after a month of dating — seem to be doing pretty successfully, you can’t really know whether you actually want to spend the rest of your life with someone until you know them nearly as well as you know yourself. After four years of dating, Nick, 36, and Vanessa, 30, have broken up, realized they couldn’t be without the other, and gotten back together. They have lived together. They know each other’s flaws.

There’s a certain point in any relationship where you know whether or not that person is the one you want to be with, the one you want to marry; this usually happens between two and three years of dating. Although some couples take a much longer time to get to the point where they’re actually ready to wed — Prince William and Kate Middleton, who are rumored to become engaged in the next few days, have been together EIGHT years! – I do believe you know when someone isn’t right, and you let them go.

This isn’t necessarily the case for every relationship, but if you don’t want to be one of the couples who split after a short period of wedded bliss, know your spouse in and out. Make him your life partner instead of the semi-stranger standing across from you who looks damn fine in a tux while you’re wearing your gorgeous white gown. There isn’t anything wrong with marrying your best friend!


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Posted at 3:14 PM on November 8, 2010  

It’s true. My wife and I got engaged after dating and living together at 11 years (guess we knew it was gonna work when we started finishing each others sentences) Then we had a 1 1/2 yr engagement. Weve been married almost 14 years now.

I’m not convinced that a legal wedding makes your love or commitment any stronger. A strong friendship is the key to survival.

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Posted at 1:05 PM on November 8, 2010  

Gotta say I disagree. I married my husband 10 months later, we’re really happy.

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Roy Patrick

Posted at 1:37 PM on November 8, 2010  

Don’t agree either. Dated 3 months prior to marriage and just celebrated 44 years.

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