Amber Portwood's Mother Blames 'Teen Mom' AND Gary For Amber's Problems! She Wants Her To Quit The Show!

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Excuses, excuses! Why can’t Amber’s mom just admit her daughter has a problem and deal with it?

We’re not the only people worried about 20-year-old Amber Portwood. Her mother, Tonya, tells Life & Style that Amber’s anger and violence problems have gotten worse ever since the Teen Mom cameras started rolling. “They film 12 hours a day for seven months at a time,” she points out. “I think she should quit now. … There’s been way too much drama.

And Tonya, 43, says a large part of that drama has to do with Amber’s on-again-off-again fiancé, Gary Shirley, who we saw Amber attack on the Sept. 28 episode of Teen Mom. She argues that her daughter is being misrepresented as the villain of the relationship, and that Gary is actually party to blame for his daughter flying off the handle.

“Amber was just 15 when she met Gary,” Tonya says. “He was 19. And he was controlling. He had to know every place she was and every person she was with. That’s where the violence may have come in. She wasn’t raised to behave that way. Gary did that to her, by doing things to make her upset. He has control issues. I think he trapped her by getting her pregnant. He didn’t wear a condom.”

She also addresses Amber’s rumored drug abuse, specifically the prescription drug Klonopin. ”Yes, she’s on medication for anxiety, but she only takes the amount she’s been prescribed,” Tonya swears. “Her relationship with Gary have her self-esteem problems. She just wasn’t happy.”

To be perfectly honest, it sounds like Amber’s mom is making a whole lot of excuses. Saying Amber “wasn’t raised” to be violent or abuse prescription drugs immediately takes the blame off her, at least in her mind. It’s time she steps in and takes responsibility for her daughter. She might be the only person who can.

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This lady is unreal. I have watched this show from the beginning(16 and pregnant)and I have only seen her (Amber’s mom) on the show once. I wonder how she could know so much about the story, when obviously she is not involved with her daughter Amber. You should blame yourself for the way your daughter is behaving, not Gary. And what kind of mother lets her 15 year old daughter hook up with a 19 year old? Better yet, why would you let her continue to see him when you claim he was controlling? Reality check, Amber should own responsibility for her current situation and make a change for the better, so her daughter Leah can have a chance.

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i think that she needs to stop blaming gray for ambers doings sayin its his fault that she beats the s**t out of him sayin he makes her mad just cause someone pissies u off does not give you the right to hit someone els wow sounds like her and her mother need some help

THANK U!! i believe her mom!! all you guys r so mean to amber. everyone goes thru tough times, that doesnt mean they r a pig or anything she is having a hard time being a single mom..she is depressed. i think she just needs some councling and she should be fine!

NO SHE IS A BAD MOM THE WAY SHE ACTS I WOULD NEVER DO THE SHOW AGAIN I WOULD BE TO ASHAMED I AM A TEEN MOM TO AND I GREW UP AND I DIDNT ACT LIKE HER I HAVE HAD SOME TOUGH TIMES BUT LIKE THE OTHER MOMS THEY DONT HIT AND CURSE THERE BOY FRIENDS OUT ITS CALLED BEING INMATURE AND NOT A MOTHER

Amber has more paint on her fat face than most buildings… Then again, her fat head is the size of most buildings… Gary’s head bounced off the wall like a rubber ball. I want to see Amber and Gary get in the ring. Throw a twinky in the middle of the ring. ding ding… Ohh and stop calling you child booger… She already has a fat turd for a mom.

AMBER IS A IDIOT AND A BAD MOM IF I ACTED LIKE THAT ON TV I WOULD NEVER SHOW MY FACE AGAIN AND GARY IS A FAT ANNOYING IDIOT AND IF I HAD TO BE AROUND HIM LONG I WOULD BEAT HIM UP I HOPE SOME ONE ELSE WILL RAISE LEAH SO SHE WANT TURN OUT LIKE THOSE IDIOTS

I blame Amber’s mother for allowing her 15 year old daughter to have an inappropriate relationship with a 19 year old man. Amber’s mom can blame Gary all she wants, fact of the matter is she initially failed to put the relationship to an end. How hard would it have been to file statutory rape charges against a 20 year old man when her 16 year old daughter came up pregnant? It wouldn’t be hard at all. Seems like Amber’s mom is pointing fingers & blaming everyone her daughter came into contact with because she failed as a parent.

“They film 12 hours a day for seven months at a time.”

Amber’s mother is NUTS and so is anyone who believes her statement. They film each girl for, at the most, 4-6 weeks at a time and NOT 12 hours a day. If you don’t believe me, watch the show and you’ll see that from start to finish on each season, very little time lapses with any specific mom.

As for abuse: Amber and Gary both stated on the follow up show that they came from a background of abuse meaning either their parents were abusive to each other or they were abused as children themselves. I think Amber’s parents are trying to cash in on the Teen Mom money train while it’s still chugging down the tracks.

It does take 2 for relationship to work or fall apart but NO WHERE, EVER, IS ABUSE OK and whether one person started a fight or not, violence is NEVER a solution. It’s past time for Amber and her parents to grow up and accept responsibility for their actions and stop looking to place the blame anywhere other than where it belongs — themselves.