Why Demi Lovato Cuts Herself & How She's Dealing With It: Experts Weigh In!

Tue, November 2, 2010 2:43pm EDT by 136 Comments

HollywoodLife.com has learned some SHOCKING details about cutting … experts say people enjoy it!

Disney star Demi Lovato, 18,  has entered into a rehabilitation center to seek professional help to cope with her battle with cutting. “It can be a fast pace, high pressured life where she has an image to portray and she can’t internalize any painful emotions,” Dr. Allison Kress, psychologist who specializes in the treatment of cutting and other self injurious behaviors, explains to HollywoodLife.com.

“Cutting, for most people, is a coping mechanism and way to deal with overwhelming negative emotion or no emotion at all,” confirms Janis Whitlock, Director of the Cornell Research Program on Self-Injurious Behavior in Adolescents and Young Adults. “It’s self medicating.”

“Our body is like a volcano,” says Dr. Kress. “The pressure builds on itself layer upon layer and it’s going to have to come out. Cutting releases endorphins which calms people down.”

“Sexual abuse or trauma can be some of the underlying reasons that lead to self mutilation,” says Janis. But, “about 44% of people have no other issues.”

Says Dr. Kress, “Sometimes it’s just that life is difficult and external pressures build up.”

Especially in Hollywood, other celebrities like Lindsay Lohan, Drew Barrymore, Angelina Jolie and Christina Ricci have all faced battles with self injury.

Now, Demi just has to focus on getting better. While in rehab, treatment will most likely focus on two steps:

1) Helping Demi to “find a different outlet to let the pain out,” says Dr. Kress, “like writing, music, having healthy relationships, exercise and eating healthy.”

2) “Focusing on the underlying causes of the pain,” says Dr. Kress. “Help them to resolve what’s causing the pain and resolving it.”

DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is another common kind of therapy used to deal with self-injury cases. “It helps people to stop long enough to recognize what’s happening and let the emotion pass without having to act on it,” explains Janis. “It helps them re-frame the negative stories they tell themselves that cause the emotions.”

Cutting is a very secretive act,” says Dr. Kress. “It can be routine with paraphernalia and a place to go (ritual) and they enjoy it,” says Janis.

“It is also a cry for help,” confirms Dr. Kress.

- Lindsey DiMattina

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Jennifer 33

Posted at 9:32 AM on March 13, 2012  

Demi why would you cut your self.?….. Look I No what it feels like to get bullied and its not fun or funny.but that doesn’t mean you should cut your self because you are far beyond beautiful and I’m still 1 of your fans. and I’ll always be. But you still shouldn’t do that. That pissed me off

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mayra ll

Posted at 1:17 AM on March 7, 2012  

U have really helped my to stop cutting my self for a while but new tat all these things r happening again nd i can’t do nothing about it I stared cutting my self but ur song skyscraper really helped my think about things I’m doing to my self nd the things u said has also helped me thanx ur a big part of my life how Ily

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Mary

Posted at 8:49 AM on March 3, 2012  

Hello, I love demi so much, she is my 3rd fave celeb, I was a cutter, she helped me to stop when I found out about her story, I was bullied about weight and other stuff and still am, but when people say stuff that brings me down I feel like punching someone, picking up a razor blade or a needle… Even one of my ‘good’ friends calls me fat and ugly.. Good friend ehh? All I wanted to say was Thank you demi I wish I could tell her that she has helped me, and I wish she could come to derby <3 xxxx love you demi

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Maddy

Posted at 8:49 PM on February 19, 2012  

Sorry about wats been going around lately Demi I know how it feels to be said stuff about yourself

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Jennifer 33

Posted at 9:38 AM on March 13, 2012  

I no your right people shouldn’t get their feelings hurt because its mean…….

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Jenna

Posted at 8:55 PM on January 24, 2012  

Hi send back pleas and tell me who this is

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Cappie

Posted at 5:48 PM on January 1, 2012  

How dare she cut herself! She has this great life, an amazing career. She has it so well, how DARE she go and cut herself! She just went through a bad break up, it’s not like her mom died. Oh my god, it just pisses me off, she probably just did it for attention.

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Lizzie

Posted at 11:15 PM on March 3, 2012  

This is soooo ignorant of you to say. She’s been dealing with self injury since she was 11 years old.. if you’ve read her interviews. You have no idea what stuff went on her life. This is ridiculous of you to say.. especially when she is TRYING to get better. How dare you.

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casey

Posted at 1:31 PM on December 25, 2011  

wrong thing did not mean to say that

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casey

Posted at 1:29 PM on December 25, 2011  

you are so stupid

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jessy

Posted at 4:23 PM on December 1, 2011  

this is dont is good not will to live make this i just love you ; you is the best always and anybody can speak never know this very lucky.

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jessy

Posted at 4:30 PM on December 1, 2011  

this dont is cool not will to live make this i just love you; you is the best always and anybody can speak never and you know this very lucky

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kaitie

Posted at 9:41 PM on February 14, 2012  

well all that i think is she needs to stay in that rehab center

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caitlynn and coissa!!!!!:)

Posted at 2:13 AM on September 25, 2011  

demi is our fav! i hate how she cuts herself. it makes me want to cry. why did stupid joe jonas have to come into her life. well NO ONE likes the jonas bros. i mean no one. i havent met one person who does. and now that he did that hopefully he feels bad. thats comin from the heart<3(:

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mari

Posted at 2:41 PM on December 1, 2011  

@tata it says on a different report shes been cutting herself since she was 11! Its not joes fault she did that! its bullys fault read other reports before you go get mad at joe!

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mari

Posted at 2:44 PM on December 1, 2011  

wait im sorry @tata i was wrong i meant to put it for caitlynn and coissa!!!!!:) so sorry(:

 
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Mary

Posted at 8:55 AM on March 3, 2012  

She dosent cut herself cause of Joe :/

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tata

Posted at 10:01 PM on September 11, 2011  

demi no one knows what u are going thru please commont back i feel so bad u r under alot of stres that is why people are being mean to u but the should not stop please dont cut ur self anymore please dont we all love u im sorry love u number 1 fan:o

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tata

Posted at 9:45 PM on September 11, 2011  

my little brother looks up to me he should not see those things I would not good for him seeing if he sees he would do it him self

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austj

Posted at 6:46 AM on September 7, 2011  

one thing i hate is im looking this up for my baby sister wow and half of you dont get it cutting is one of the hardest things to stop the other half just says deal with it you guys have to know one thing it hard and lois!x the recovery to this is a long process very long

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Lois!x

Posted at 11:35 AM on September 10, 2011  

Look, i know it’s a long, i was just wishing her a full recovery, and for it not to take longer than it needs to because it’s hard for her.

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Lois!x

Posted at 4:46 PM on September 5, 2011  

Look, Demi. I totally agree with Bethanni, although i really really wish you could come back to sonny with a chance for just one more season, i reaaaally want to see what happens to sonny and chad? and if you can’t go back, could you just comment back what happens? thank you Demii!! I respect that you need time alone and hope that you make a quick, full recovery, i love your music!

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Bethanni :)

Posted at 5:21 PM on September 4, 2011  

Demi, i’m so sorry for what you’re going through! i can’t say i understand exactly, but i know what it’s like when things go seriously wrong in your life. i just want to let you know, that all the comments that say things against you, it kinda shows that they don’t understand (no offence meant). I love you Demi <3, all your fans do, and although we really miss you on so random and need you back, your real megafans understand that you need time to get better and get back on your feet. And we want to help by supporting you all the way! I really hope you get better, and know that your megafans are always here! ( some on this website ;D ) Love from your biggest fan, Bethanni xoxox
Ps: i mean thisin the nicest way! But if you're going to come on here and post endless comments about how Demi is supposedly 'disappointing her fans', don't bother! If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing. it's not like Demi wanted to be in pain. Love you Demi!!! xxxxxxxx <3

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Amanda

Posted at 9:10 PM on August 12, 2011  

Demi you r a careful person I don’t care what anyone says you r not fat you r a extremely beatiful young women please go back to sonny with a chance I get picked on to but idk cut myself love you

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Mark Loves

Posted at 9:53 PM on September 3, 2011  

Dude demi lovato is a fat disney girl okay she cuts herself because she’s ugly and she is the fattest girl ever what is her waist size 54 ugly little disney girl. She probably made up the bulimic thing so she looks skinnier she fat

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WOw!

Posted at 9:56 PM on September 3, 2011  

Yah i agree Mark

 
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megan

Posted at 2:02 AM on September 25, 2011  

you shouldnt be talking im sure that if you were a disney star people would be teasing you. amd th only reason you said that, mark is cause you are just jelous of her and ou wanna be a disney star. so if you dont have anything nice to say, then dont say it at all. im sure if you were depressed you would do that to.

 
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sara

Posted at 8:44 PM on January 7, 2012  

thats not nice and she is not fat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 
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Mary

Posted at 3:27 AM on March 4, 2012  

Shut up you self obsessed twat

 
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taylor

Posted at 1:50 PM on March 6, 2012  

mark , shut the hell up her life isnt perfect yeah shes famous because she has a good voice not beecause of her backround life she cut her self and gained weight because she was being bullied and made fun of you . everyone doesnt understand the stuff she went through . stay strong demi don’t let what people say change who you are . your beautiful never forget that .

 
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Gothchick

Posted at 1:37 PM on August 7, 2011  

I cutt ma self too but i started cutting my self at 11 years old but now im 12 and i still do!:( >:)

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billy bob joey

Posted at 8:46 PM on January 7, 2012  

whyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!do u do that there is no reason for it

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Sandra

Posted at 2:53 PM on August 1, 2011  

Sweetie you’re only twelve so of course you wouldnt understand..but demi is not a bad person because she cut herself. She was obviously hurting. Even though she’s a celebrity, doesnt mean she doesnt go through pain. I hope shes doing better. And i hope you still continue to be a fan because shes still the same old demi. <3

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Cheyanne

Posted at 9:38 PM on July 31, 2011  

demi i cant believe u did tht to ur self im 12 yrs old one of ur biggest fans eva i litterally used to dress like you … why did u cut ur self?? i dont understand u had a life of wht every girl eva wants .. WHY??? u used to be my romodel but now to me it feels like ur someone i thought i knew a lil bit about but now i know nothing at all!!! idk if u did it bcuz of stress but i really loved being a fan but now my mom wont let me have any posters or anything of u anymore bcuz of wht u did … :-( !!!

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rachel/sendmomo

Posted at 11:51 PM on July 30, 2011  

i miss u i really like ur music and ur acting why did u leave us please come bak 2 so random i am crying rite now pleze do it 4 ur fans we all love u <3 sendmomo

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Selena

Posted at 8:51 PM on July 29, 2011  

Demi Lovato, I don’t know if you’re reading this. You’re probably not, but I just wanna say cutting yourself wouldn’t do anything. I know I don’t know what you’re going through. No one does. I know you’re going through a hard time. & I just want you to know that you did nothing wrong. Your fans love you & they will support you because they also know you didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t even know you but I can relate to you. You’re like my idol. I hope you’re going to be better soon. /: btw, my name really isn’t Selena. Alright bye.
-xoxo,
Your biggest fan.

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morgan

Posted at 7:17 PM on July 20, 2011  

i now how u feel demi and baily but it happend to me too

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morgan

Posted at 7:13 PM on July 20, 2011  

im a real big fan of demi. demi if ur reading this i now how u feel. hope u get better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:):):):):):);)

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Bailey

Posted at 7:03 AM on July 15, 2011  

I hope she is well soon. I used to cut myself back when I lived with my abusive father, but as soon as she moved out, I had stopped. Also, on her show, “So Random” I thought I saw the scars on her wrist, but I dissregarded it. And then she left the show.. I didn’t know it was for this…

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niki

Posted at 5:13 PM on July 27, 2011  

demi lovato im crying right now im so sorry why did you cut yourself i know you have a tatoo it says stay strong and stay strong if you knew who i am i would go to the hospital and bought you a present.bye hope you feel better

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niki

Posted at 5:21 PM on July 27, 2011  

demi you know i bitted myselef just like how you feel i have one friend and she is so nice but when i broke up with her she wouldnt leave me alone she pushes me but i ignore if you break up with someone stay strong and ignore if you knew me i would protect you from anyone and be you bff forever

 
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ale612

Posted at 11:35 AM on August 2, 2011  

what was demei going thro?

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someone

Posted at 6:51 PM on July 13, 2011  

guys, i mean this in the nicest way.
You have no right to tell her she’s a ‘whore for doing that’ or that she’s ‘dissapointing her fans’ or ‘she doesn’t have a reason’.
You don’t know what her life is like. You don’t know her struggles. You don’t know what it’s like.
Don’t judge her.
Everyone has a different reason as to why they cut themselves. They can’t help it, it’s not like they WANT to have a problem.
Leave her alone, it’s HER life, not YOURS.
She’s not dissapointing her fans, because her true fans support her.
And she is NOT a whore for doing that.
I take offense to this because I have never cut myself but many of my friends have.
It’s a cry for help! You can’t let it go unseen.

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tyra

Posted at 4:27 PM on July 29, 2011  

hi demi i love you so pleas stop cuting yourself all your fans miss you on sorandom you are to beutyfull to cut yourself i love you i watched almost evrey movie that u have den in so com and be i more :) :p <3

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TheOfficialDemi

Posted at 1:10 PM on November 3, 2011  

thankyou <3

 
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Abby

Posted at 1:25 PM on December 10, 2011  

demi i am really upset my mom recently died and i just havent been the same but u really really give me hope

 
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Rose

Posted at 12:06 AM on December 25, 2011  

hey Demi im so sry bout wat ur been thru (Even though idk wat u been thru) im ur biggest fan ily (no homo) :P

 
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