Kate Hudson's Boyfriend, Matt Bellamy, Takes Her Son, Ryder, Out For Ice Cream. Are They Moving Too Fast?

Mon, September 27, 2010 12:52pm EST by 1 Comment

Kate Hudson falls into new relationships hard and fast, but what effect is her speed dating having on her son?

Some Hollywood celebrities seem to have a revolving door when it comes to relationships, and while I’m not going to stand here in judgment of their “now you see ‘em, now you don’t” style of dating, I do wonder about the impact it is having on their kids. Case in point: Kate Hudson. Since splitting with husband rocker Chris Robinson in 2006, the Oscar nominee has been linked to a host of men, including Owen Wilson, Dax Shepard, Lance Armstrong and Alex Rodriguez. Her latest guy, Muse singer Matt Bellamy, was spotted over the weekend with her son, Ryder Robinson, (and without Kate) getting ice cream.

Since reports of them being an item surfaced in June, Kate, 31, has dragged Ryder with her to the UK as she traipsed after her new man. But now that the 7-year-old’s back at school in LA, Matt has followed her to California, where his band is touring. Despite the fact that they’ve only been together for a few months, Kate has already introduced Matt to her parents, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, and Matt is even giving Kurt guitar lessons. But given her previous dating history, is Kate getting too serious too soon? And what effect is it having on Ryder?

“Chris is a bit concerned about Ryder, and the effect all this dating might have on him,” an insider told the New York Daily News earlier this year. “But in the end he knows she’s a great mom.”

I’m glad Chris thinks so, because I have to wonder if poor Ryder wakes up every morning wondering who’s been sleeping in Mommy’s bed… and what continent he’s on.

Psychiatrist Dr. Susan Abbott of New York’s Mount Sinai School of Medicine says that speed daters like Kate need to be careful about the people they introduce into their kid’s life. “We usually warn parents against bringing in figures who the child could get attached to before the parent is sure that the new figure is going to be around,” she says. “Kids attach fairly easily and can be hurt and damaged when these new attachments leave. Kids don’t really understand the fundamentals of an adult relationship so they aren’t really able to understand that it’s not personal.”

Dr. Abbott says that she has treated children who have been in these situations and these kids “still count these experiences and lost relationships as losses years later. These lost relationships can be factors that lead to depression.”

So, here’s two words of warning, Kate: Slow Down!

–Kathy Campbell