Bonnie Asks: Is Kate Putting Self-Promotion Ahead Of Parenting On Her Priority List?

Wed, September 15, 2010 6:50pm EDT by 40 Comments

Here’s why I ask this question: the mom of eight is promoting her perfect bikini body on the cover of People after leaving her kids behind for a four-day photo shoot at an opulent Mexican resort.

After dissing ex-husband Jon Gosselin’s visitation time with their kids on Live With Regis and Kelly last Friday (Sept. 10), it sure seemed like a pot-calling-the-kettle-black move when Kate boarded a flight later that day, headed to the fancy photo shoot in Mexico.

Leaving the eight little Gosselites back in Pennsylvania with the dad she had just criticized, Kate took off with her bodyguard Steve Neild on a four-day trip to the luxurious Casa Dorada Resort in Cabo San Lucas. That in itself seemed just a little hypocritical after Kate told an astonished Kelly Ripa and fill-in co-host Anderson Cooper that she was ALWAYS at home while her children visited with their dad… except, she almost whispered, when she was traveling or working.

Am I the only one who thinks it odd that after stirring up an unprovoked storm of media attention for her public Jon lashing, she was irresponsible to get on a plane and leave her ex-husband and kids to deal with the fallout?

The little Gosselites may be young but they are old enough to hear from their friends that their mommy has just attacked their daddy on national television.

Furthermore, their mommy left them to do a six-page photo shoot and cover story about her newly trim and buffed-up bikini body. Plus, their mommy also used People to let the world know that she’s looking for “Mr. Right.” “It would be nice if someone noticed me…” she told the world. “There’s nobody out there who’s come forward, and it’s depressing.” Where is he? “All I can say to this mystery man is hurry it up,” she urges in her interview.

Jeez — is she auditioning to be the next Bachelorette? I bet you she is! In any case, do her kids really want the world to know that their mother is desperate to start dating? I doubt it. That’s just gross and scary for them.

And I bet that Kate would say that she HAD to do the photo shoot and might HAVE to do The Bachelorette in order to support her eight children. Well, I respect her need to earn money to care for her family, and I understood her decisions to undertake Dancing With the Stars and the new Kate Plus 8 — the only way she knows how to make the big bucks is on reality TV.

But I don’t think her career is enhanced at all by lashing out at her ex-husband or by flaunting her “perfectly” retouched body on the cover of a magazine.

Instead, I think these choices are a turn-off to women like myself, who used to be her fans.

Kate built a fan base with the original Jon & Kate Plus 8 by sharing her trials, tribulations and joys as an ordinary mom, trying to cope with an extraordinary situation — having both sextuplets and twins. Her kids were presented as her top, top priority.

Now, it appears as if stroking her own ego is her top, top priority. And as for the eight little Gosselites, well, Kate, I guess you think it’s OK to leave them with your supposedly incompetent ex –- when you have something better to do than parent. Yes, that would be, to self-promote!

–Bonnie Fuller