BONNIE SAYS: Don't You Think Elin Nordegren Is the Queen of Class For Her Courageous Handling of Tiger Woods' Scandal and Divorce?

Tue, August 24, 2010 6:09pm EDT by 17 Comments

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Could you have withstood the heartbreaking revelations of your husband’s infidelities, the constant presence of the paparazzi, and the outspoken public opinions of multiple mistresses, with the calm fortitude of Elin Nordegren?

I think it’s safe to say that few of us could have conducted ourselves with the grace under pressure that Tiger’s now-former wife did. And only now after the finalization of her divorce on Aug. 23 has she spoken out in a cover-story interview with PEOPLE magazine.

Aside from the night of Nov. 27, 2009, when Elin tore out of her home after Tiger crashed the family suburban, Elin has never once been seen publicly agitated, and now she’s finally spoken out with honesty and maturity about how her “whole world’ fell apart.

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Instead, the 30-year-old blond beauty held her head high for months as busty babe after busty babe came forward with sordid tales of wild sex with her now ex.

Wouldn’t you have stayed in bed … permanently, with the covers over your head? I would have. But not Elin. While publicity attorney Gloria Allred held press conferences on behalf of Tiger’s “hard done by” mistresses, Elin proudly went about her daily life, caring for her two babies Sam, 2, and Charlie, 1.

Despite the presence of the press, she dropped Sam at nursery school and ballet classes, took both children to play dates and birthday parties, and was even spotted wheeling them on their red wagon through the street near their home in Windermere, Fla. Focusing on her two young children was, she now admits, what got her through the past nine devastating months.

Elin reveals now what we all guessed, that she did undergo the most torturous rollercoaster of emotions: shock, betrayal, heartache, embarrassment, loneliness, humiliation, anger, and hurt. She must have felt like she’d been kicked in the stomach by the man she had loved — the father of her children, no less.

And the pain went on and on. It was unrelenting. For weeks, there were revelations of new mistresses and sordid sexual exploits in the media every day, all day. She even had to learn that her now ex-husband had had sex in her own homes and with the daughter of a neighbor she had known for years. She admits that while she didn’t watch TV for months, she did follow some of the reports on the Internet.

Did you, like I did, wonder how much one woman could take? And not only did Elin take it, she continued to keep her life and the life of her children as normal as possible. She made her children her top priority, even though their father hadn’t. She also had to cope with feeling betrayed “by many people around” her, she tells PEOPLE, an unmissable reference to Tiger’s team and best friends, who abetted his philandering.

Most impressively, until today, Elin never said ONE WORD publicly about Tiger, his mistresses, or her marriage. She kept her hurt and anger to herself, turning only for support to her twin sister Josefin Nordegren, a lawyer in London, and to her mother, former Swedish politician Barbro Holmberg, and her father, Thomas Nordegren. When the Christmas holidays loomed, she took the children and went skiing in the French Alps with her sister and friends.

Most women in this kind of stressful, heartbreaking situation would have been hard-pressed to keep their lips zipped. They couldn’t have helped themselves from at least saying a few choice words publicly about their philandering husband.

Not Elin. She first quietly made a statement that rang out loudly and clearly when she deliberately removed her wedding ring one day, and went out to pump gas with her hand out and clearly seen. The silent symbolism spoke volumes. She still doesn’t say a nasty word about her ex. The closest she comes in her PEOPLE interview is to say that she is “still working on” forgiveness.

Amazingly, for many months of her ordeal, Elin appeared to be willing to try and save her marriage to Tiger. She visited him at the sex rehab clinic he entered in Hattiesburg, Miss., and apparently spent a week going to therapy with him. Part of the reported therapy was to listen to Tiger’s confessions about his every last infidelity. Can you imagine how she felt? Wouldn’t it have been like knives going through your heart? But she was willing to give him a second chance for the sake of their family. “I really wanted my children to have a core family,” she now says.

Could you have done that?

Furthermore, just think about how Elin’s life was turned topsy-turvy after the course of one night, once she found out about Tiger’s #1 mistress, Rachel Uchitel. Prior to that night, she was the admired loving wife of five years to the world’s greatest golfer, a role model for millions. His golf world was her world. They would have had their own friends and social circle.

But in an instant, that was lost, and Elin has had to rebuild a life for herself and her young children, and to find people who wouldn’t betray her trust.

I give her an A+ not only for her courage, but for setting the record straight in one very open interview. I suspect that Tiger and his legal team signed off on every word in this PEOPLE interview, after agreeing that it was a good idea that she had her say, before retreating into private life again.

She has reclaimed her maiden name. It will allow her to regain anonymity in time and it’s a backhanded slap at Tiger for the pain he caused her. “She cut ties and said, ‘I want to be known by my own identity,'” points out Michael Sands, an LA-based celebrity image expert.

You also have to give Elin kudos for never being insecure about her own style and identity through these past months. Tiger may have romped with bust-enhanced, scantily-clad bimbettes, but Elin never strayed from her own classic, easy sporty style. The mistresses wore heavy makeup. Elin wore almost none. Their necklines plunged down to there. Elin kept her naturally gorgeous and toned former model’s figure fully clothed.

“She let Tiger do his thing and she came out smelling like a rose. You have to commend this woman. Because of this, she may even go back to modelling or do a product endorsement. I think anyone would hire her” says Sands.

“She was exemplary,” agrees Whitney Casey, relationship expert for Match.com, and author of The Man Plan. “Elin is so young and it’s not like she had any practice in dealing with a situation like this. She must have had great family support and love so she didn’t need to get love and sympathy from the outside world,” adds Casey. It’s true, she now talks about how she and her lawyer sister Josefin are best friends and as a lawyer was able to give her help with practical matters.

In this world of reality TV and tell-all books, it is almost more shocking that Elin didn’t seek to share her pain and anger with the public. Hey, she never even lost her temper at the paparazzi trailing her day after day, from Orlando to Switzerland.

Instead, once she realized that her marriage was “irretrievably broken,” she and Tiger quietly worked out a settlement that may have been as much as $100 million. She deserves every penny.

Wisely, it appears that Tiger was willing to tear up a pre-nup that would’ve limited her to $10 million of his reported $600 million-plus fortune.

“She handled her difficult situation better than anyone I’ve seen in a long time,” says Michael Sands. “It speaks volumes for her character.”

It sure does! Tiger threw away the love of a woman with extraordinary strength of character.

Now she says she will finish her psychology degree and have a career as well as being a loving mother.

Hey AmEx: How about dumping Tiger as the face of your Platinum card, and endorsing Elin Nordegren instead?

Now SHE’S a role model!

–Bonnie Fuller

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Zaia

Posted at 3:02 AM on August 30, 2010  

She’s everything her douchebag of ex husband isn’t …starting by decent.
Nice job Mr Trashy Woods. You have just lost a woman of grace, class, poise and intelligence. She will have no problems to find a guy much much better than you and who will serve as a much better role model for the children.
You on the other side you will be stuck with the trashy bimbos you seem to love so much.

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Heart

Posted at 5:50 AM on August 29, 2010  

Charlie and sam beautiful child

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Posted at 7:56 AM on August 28, 2010  

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jewel64

Posted at 4:05 AM on August 28, 2010  

She handled this entire affair with maturity and grace. She is such a class act. You won’t be seeing any tell-all books or interviews from this woman. She has given her one and only interview to People, but other than that, she continues to be focused on her 2 children and getting her degree in Psychology.
Tiger Woods stupidly threw away a classy, strong woman in favor of his cheap, shallow, trashy cocktail waitresses, porn stars, strippers and club hostesses. I can’t imagine how horrible Elin must have felt when she learned her marriage to Tiger was a sham, designed to enhance his phony, carefully constructed image of clean-cut family man. She mistook a calculated move by Tiger for love. He deceived her. Elin deserved every penny she got out of the divorce.

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Pat Browning

Posted at 7:38 PM on August 27, 2010  

Enough of Elin already. She has milked the poor betrayed wife bit for all it’s worth — which apparently is several million dollars. If she really wished Tiger well she wouldn’t have let People magazine splash her all over the issue that came out just as Tiger was gearing up for the Barclay’s golf tournament. He’s well rid of her if you ask me. And those darling little kids aren’t “hers.” They are his, too. Sorry to rant on, but I’m tired of people dumping on Tiger and holding Elin up as some kind of saint.

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Darlene

Posted at 12:25 AM on August 30, 2010  

I agree. If you are that tired of and do not like the celebrity life, she would not have gotten 8 lawyers and hit him for millions of dollars after a five years of marriage! She did not care what Tiger did if he had that many women and played golf in which that took alot of training plus playing, a young woman who is really in love, investigates cell phones, email, checking phone calls because the man have their nose so wide opened. She was a nanny with nothing and he already had built his empire. She did not deserve that kind of money and yes, she knew what he and who he was. I do not know what kind of lawyer he had to let her get that much. She isn’t the only wife of a celeb that the man have messed up on. Why did she deserve to get paid like that? He was stupid to up the prenump, and she still getting paid for doing a cover for People magazine. Why didn’t Shaq wife get paid like this and he loose endorsements, or apologize to her? Michael Jordan never apologize or loose endorsement with Juanita and she was with him for years! Will John Edwards wife get paid like this and she is sick? Have been with him for years and they lost a child in which this mistress have given him a chance to have another child. If this had been a wife of Tiger race or a White marriage, this would not have occurred!
I hope he learn from this, but I am quite sure he will not. He have lost who he is and she is riding off in the sunset with his money and another man will be living on it and he seem to not be able to get his game back. Hope he do not have a complete meltdown and O.J number 2 because he find someone living off of his money.

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kevin_n

Posted at 4:41 PM on August 25, 2010  

So white trash is someone who comes from a family with a dad who is a well known and respected journalist and a mother that is former minister?

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Elin is a real woman

Posted at 11:09 PM on August 26, 2010  

wee-wee problem little boys?

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mimi tholsted

Posted at 1:34 PM on August 25, 2010  

After endless bad talk about Elin N. here ….(I always defended her)…..you finally realize her as a wonderful person and mother….it is about time…….she has been through hell everywhere she turned……let her in peace now, thank you!

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Lola B

Posted at 1:06 PM on August 25, 2010  

Imagine If Kate Gosselin was in Elin’s shoes? We never would have heard the end of it. She absolutely showed alot of dignity and most importantly DIDN’T trash the father of her children publicly

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faith

Posted at 12:16 PM on August 25, 2010  

Sorry Carmen – just read the interview she did with People and nothing was said against Tiger. I know you were hoping she would “dish” all the dirt about their marriage. She also said this is her first and last interview. So I guess you won’t be able to read all the trashy comments about Tiger you were hoping for.

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Darlene

Posted at 12:38 AM on August 30, 2010  

If she wanted all of the money, she cannot mention anything else. Again, he was stupid for going up on the pre-nup becaue she knew all of the times that his ego would no allow her to divorce him and cause more embarrassments! She knew he would try to bargain and when he went up, she called the lawyers, not 1 but 8! If she loved him for the kids father, she could have ended it sooner and took the 10 millions and still did well. If he falls apart, he is no good for the kids. He was top of his game and for the kids sake, she could have left without the bargaining if she care from the beginning. Women whom actually was in love and was betrayed, they still care and would not try to break his spirit to this extent. She would be angry to hurt at the beginning, but as she watch him falling from grace and the media tearing him apart, she would have done like Mel Gibson wife, Bill Cosby wife, Shaq wife, Hillary Clinton and Jackie Kennedy.

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Krys

Posted at 9:03 AM on August 25, 2010  

Strong woman with class.

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Mia

Posted at 7:39 AM on August 25, 2010  

I agree, I think she is the classiest lady for how she’s handled this horrible situation. She kept her head up in spite of her broken heart and humiliation. She stayed focused on her kids and didn’t give the skanks in her husband’s life the extra press they want by acknowledging them. Add to that Tiger’s career has tanked now- I think he placed 78th in the last tournament he was in- hahaha. Looks good on him. What a loser. I bet the men are lining up to get a shot at a date with Elin. Way to go Tiger. I hope all that unprotected sex with dirty trailer park ho’s was worth it.

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Stacey

Posted at 1:37 AM on August 25, 2010  

Great article! Elin is one classy lady to be able to deal what she has been dealing with this past year. I don’t know how she did it… Tiger is revolting!

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Carmen

Posted at 12:17 AM on August 25, 2010  

It seems that Elin Nordegren will be having her say after all!!!

The National Enquirer is reporting that Elin had an interview with a magazine.
The Sun, UK is reporting that” At the 11th hour ELIN NORDEGREN rejected Tiger’s lawyers’ bids to gag her – even though it cost her millions in a reduced settlement. Elin had already called a camera crew to her Florida home last week to speak out about her split with the womanizing golf star and will have it broadcast.”

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Carmen

Posted at 7:39 PM on August 24, 2010  

I think that Elin Nordegren is a woman with class, dignity, self respect, courage and moral principles. I always felt that Elin would have never stay with a man as disloyal and amoral as Tiger Woods, even if she still loves him. Love eventually dies when it is not nurture and cared for. Elin has her two precious, innocent children to love, cherish and protect. Elin’s priorities are her children and she has been a devoted mother all along. I hope that when Elin heals, she will have a whole heart again to give it to a more deserving and worthy man than Tiger Woods! I predict that Elin and the children will have a very good and happy future!!!

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