Where is the line between cute and out of control? Call me old-fashioned, but I think kids need boundaries and I’m not sure that Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are setting them with their 4-year-old daughter, Suri.
I think Suri Cruise is adorable. With her huge eyes and perfectly coiffed hair, she dresses like a little princess in gorgeous frocks that I probably can’t afford and accessorizes better than most women I know. But after reading a new interview with her mom, Katie Holmes, in which the proud parent tells New York magazine that Suri “picks out all of her own clothes and has since she was 1½,” I found her just that little bit less endearing.
Katie also explains that Suri plays designer on her own clothes, telling her mom, “I want this sleeve cut,” which Katie goes ahead and does, or rather, gets someone else to do (“because I don’t sew very well”). Am I the only one hearing warning bells? Should a child that young really be allowed to make all of their own decisions about what they wear, and what those clothes should look like?
But Suri’s fashion dictates don’t end there. It turns out she tells her mom what to wear, too. And her doting parent’s response is, “OK, I trust you.” Um, who’s the adult in this relationship?
I’m the oldest of six kids and when it came to getting us all dressed in the morning, I know my mother was just profoundly grateful that we were wearing something clean, that didn’t need mending and it wasn’t on inside out. If we were color co-ordinated, so much the better, but it wasn’t a prerequisite for stepping out the door and onto the school bus.
So, I’m just going to come out and say it. I think Suri Cruise is spoiled. Rotten. But that’s no surprise when your dad, Tom Cruise, is one of the richest men in Hollywood.
Later on in the interview, Katie reveals that Suri is home-schooled and has a teacher who is with her every day, one-on-one. Katie says, “I’m happy that my daughter is strong-willed and determined. You really have to go with what the child is wanting.”
Since when do you have to “go with” (ie. give in to) what your child wants? If they only want to eat candy for dinner, do you let them? If they want to draw a Crayola masterpiece all over their bedroom wall, do you say it’s OK? If they want to turn all of their jeans into Daisy Dukes, do you get out your scissors? And isn’t “strong-willed and determined” just code for “throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her own way”?
Are you starting to agree with me on the whole spoiled rotten thing?
While most parents think their kids are unique and full of potential, Katie clearly thinks Suri is destined for greatness, saying, “She’s so creative and she’s so bright and so special. Whatever she wants to do, I know she’s going to be amazing at it. I’ve already started my applause, and I will be applauding for the rest of my life.”
Oh, puh-leeze. Sorry, Tom and Katie, but I think you are creating a monster.