Mel’s Rage-Filled Text Messages To Oksana Have Surfaced — And Experts Say He’s Abusive No Matter How Much She Antagonized Him!

Mon, August 2, 2010 8:13pm EDT by 3 Comments

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Two new reports claim that Mel Gibson was abusive towards his son and ex-wife, Robyn, and he sent threatening texts to Oksana — reiterating many of YOUR opinions that his actions are abusive and unforgivable

An unlikely Mel Gibson ally surfaced last week when one HollywoodLife.com reader, Karen, reached out to me, explaining that as a former victim of domestic abuse, she found Mel Gibson’s estranged girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva, to be in the wrong. However, as more and more evidence against Mel comes out in the open — including angry text messages to baby mama Oksana Grigorieva — many of you actively disagree with Karen and say no one ever has an excuse to harm another person….no matter how much Oksana pushed Mel’s buttons.

Karen said she was frustrated because Oksana only spoke about a singular incident in January when Mel allegedly punched her in the head, saying “an abuser doesn’t do it once and stop.” However, two experts say that when you combine Mel’s rage-filled phone rants with the angry texts messages released Aug. 2, it’s proof that abuse can come in any form.

“Abuse is generally not one incident—however, it could be one type of incident, like physical violence. Then, the abuser can use sexual, verbal, financial, or technological violence as tools of power and control,” Chaitra Shenoy, the Policy and Technical Assistance Attorney at Break the Cycle, the leading, national nonprofit working to end teen dating violence, tells HollywoodLife.com. “Your commenter makes it a point to show that he has never abused someone else before, however, we don’t know that.”

Dr. CarolAnn Peterson, an adjunct associate professor at the USC School of Social Work agrees, and adds that just because Mel, 54, is still allowed to visit their eight-month-old daughter, Lucia, it doesn’t mean he’s not abusive.

“Many abusers never hit their victims, they use other forms of abuse – name calling (which Mel has done), financial abuse, intimidation and pointing loaded guns at victims but never pulling the trigger (this is abuse),” Dr. Peterson explains. “And just because Mel received visitation rights, doesn’t mean he’s not abusive. Many father’s have visitation rights, even if their former wife or girlfriend has a restraining order.”

Mel exhibits other characteristics of an abusive person by consistently blaming Oksana, 40, for all of his anger and rage, Dr. Peterson points out.

“Abusers don’t view their partners as partners, they view their partners are possessions…something they own,” she tells me. “In my opinion Mel comes across as someone who believes he owns Oksana. Also, abusers never believe they have a problem; it’s always the
victim’s fault….in this case, Mel continually blames Oksana, including for the alleged incident of where he hit her and knocked out two of her teeth.”

To prove her point, our angry reader, Karen, also says that Oksana didn’t report Mel’s abuse for six months, which seems suspect. However, both experts say many abused women are too scared to speak out against their abuser.

“Each survivor is different. There are survivors that take months, even years to share the abuse they faced,” Chenoy explains. “It doesn’t mean that the abuse didn’t happen or they should not be believed.”

Adds Dr. Peterson, “Most people, including formerly battered women [like your reader, Karen], are quick to blame the victim. But the real question is why men batter and why we as a society don’t hold them accountable….even for one incident.”

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Leon

Posted at 8:10 AM on August 3, 2010  

Hey Cathy go watch the passion of the christ again, make you feel more like an idiot. …

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Leon

Posted at 8:08 AM on August 3, 2010  

Who ever this Karen Person is, is a dumb sh*t and needs to be muzzled. She is in a complete denial stage and was probably using Mel’s movies to project her away from her pain, thus by attaching herself as an uncredible friend to Mel. She is dumb, Mel should go to Jail, and oksana back to russia. His career is dead and I he needs to do jail time. Tellingsomeone your going to kill him and put them in a rose garden would put any street thug in jail. What is Mel better than other people? He isn’t better than me and that means get is pinstripes and ass humping jail firend ready for him.

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Cathy

Posted at 10:37 PM on August 2, 2010  

I also came from a family of domestic abuse. Oksana had lawyers before she even before the Jan incident. She told Mel she had a concussion before she went to the doctor. Neither the dentist or doctor reported which is illegal. Neither dentist or doctor mentioned a black eye. She went to a pediatrian for herself and its questionable that she had the baby even checked. She signed an agreement for 12M in May and then gets new lawyers then refuses to sign long form. She went back to living with him for several more months after incident. She had a publicist, now 2 have dumped her. You could hear Mel say on the tapes twice that she was hitting him. I don’t believe in a double standard, if you hit someone, don’t be surprised it you get hit back. I’m sorry I just can’t believe this women. I’m not a Mel fan either so I’m pushing for him because of that. If these tapes had not magicly been leaked, I may have had more faith in her but I think this has been planned from day one. She has taken other men.
Mel will probably be charged because the problem with the domestic abuse charge is it’s too open and too vague. You can be playing sex games with spouse and one gets mad one day and get the other charged with DA. Archie Bunker could be charged with DA because he called Mike at meathead all the time.
I’m not saying Mel has a halo but we don’t know what all she was doing to him and I do believe you can be provoked into violence.

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