Why Do Cheaters — Like Jesse & Tiger — Tell Their Mistresses Their Marriages Are Shams?

Tue, March 23, 2010 2:27pm EDT by 4 Comments

032310_james_woods_insets_544_XXXXWhy do men always think they can have their cake and eat it, too, when it comes to having both a wife and mistress? Relationship experts weigh in!

Jesse James told his heavily tattooed mistress, Michelle ‘Bombshell’ McGee, that his marriage to Sandra Bullock was “a sham,” claims Michelle’s ex-husband, Shane Modica. This isn’t the first time we’ve heard the “my marriage is really over” excuse, either — love rat Tiger Woods allegedly fed two of his mistresses the same line.

But why do guys do this – and how do they get away with it? HollywoodLife.com contacted two relationship experts, who explained why cheaters like Tiger and Jesse think they can play with someone other than their marital partner — and not get caught.

“[These guys] want to have their cake and eat it too,” New York-based relationship expert Amanda Kane told us. “They want to placate the mistresses because they want them to feel like they are the only people in the world AND save their marriages.”

Tiger, 34, reportedly told one of his first mistresses, an unnamed 20-year-old cocktail waitress from Fla., that his engagement to Elin Nordegren was “only for publicity.” Alleged mistress number 14, Theresa Rogers, told a pal that Tiger maintained his marriage was simply to “boost his public image.” Meanwhile, Jesse’s San Diego-based stripper mistress Michelle McGee told her former husband, Shane, that Jesse, 40, said his nearly five-year marriage with Sandra, 45, was “a sham.”

Relationship expert Amy Levine agrees with Amanda Kane that some men tend to think they can have it all. “They seem to play both sides of the coin, so to speak,” she said. “Some people with sex addiction may do this, and it’s a form of manipulation to get what they want.”

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Unfortunately for these guys, cheaters don’t seem to prosper. Although Tiger’s wife, Elin, 30, is reportedly staying with the philandering golf pro (albeit, reluctantly), Jesse isn’t so lucky. Just one week after news of the affair broke in In Touch Weekly, Sandra, 45, has already moved out of the family’s Los Angeles home and, as of March 23, her friends are claiming the Academy award-winning actress is ready to file for divorce.

“[Sandra] is in a really difficult position because this is so incredibly public,” Kane rationalized. “She needs the support of friends and family to rally around her through this period. I would tell her to think of herself first and take care of herself first before she acts. [Sandra should] reflect on the situation and process it.”

Keep Reading For More on the Upsetting Jesse James Cheating Scandal:

  1. Sandra Bullock And Jesse James Contact Divorce Lawyers!
  2. Sandra Bullock And Jesse James’ Marriage A ‘Sham?’
  3. Hey BFFs — What A Burn! Watch Sandra Bullock Gush Over Jesse James!
  4. Shock! Sandra Bullock Moves Out! Is Her Marriage Over?
  5. Does Jesse James Have a Type … Tattooed? And Is Ink-Free Sandra The Odd Woman Out?
  6. EXCLUSIVE! The Day After The Oscars, Jesse James’ Alleged Mistress Complained About A Lack Of Sex
  7. Sandra Bullock Heartbroken! Will She Still Fight For Jesse James To Win Custody Of His Little Girl?
  8. Jesse James Made Shocking Accusations of Violence Against His Ex-Wife!

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Nadine

Posted at 12:18 AM on April 1, 2010  

The tresspassing kind are the trespassing kind. It’s a fact of nature. Sex therapy…ok…well it’s an attempt…
As a regular person…I hear so much from men how women are infedelic, nature/nurture vs nature, the pure math says it isn’t so truthful or practical.
I think you ladies have the pride the men that hope to rise to you occasion do not.
Don’t ever forget it. Not ever. Why would anyone agree to accept anything less than the bond too many profess but lack the ability to achive. Keep strong. It’s in you.

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Jacks

Posted at 11:46 AM on March 26, 2010  

Ok, I understand people cheat, it happens but these guys have taken it to a whole nother level. I’m sure within the next feew weeks more girls will come out and say they have slept with Jesse as well,he may even beet tigers record. I can forgive a guy if he cheats once, nu these lasies need to realize this is a whole nother situation. I think ELin is retarded for getting back with Tiger. She should file divirce papers just as fast as Sandra should, Once its over, its over and then all these skanky bitches will be useless information!

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dz

Posted at 5:11 PM on March 23, 2010  

They both got what they deserved. I don’t feel sorry for any of those two guys. Because its a shame that some people can’t keep their marriage together. There is no reason why anyone should cheat on their wife. Both of those guys know that they are not committed, they are liar’s, and they cheat. Those men don’t put their family first. Also, because they have so much money,so they go out to flirt with these other women. So they can feel better about them self’s. Tiger and Jessie are both worthless!

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Maddie

Posted at 4:45 PM on March 23, 2010  

Jesse and Tiger did not just cheat on their wives. They cheated on their kids too!!! They set up a happy home, with mommy and daddy and then daddy has got some issues with feeling like a secure, mature, responsible father and husband. So he goes out to find someone else to lie to and for some reason this makes him feel better??? Until he gets caught!! And let me add that there are amazing men out there that do not cheat!! We just don’t talk about them… Not all marriages work out, big fact of life. But it is never just one person that gets hurts. Why cant they see that?? All be it , that in the case of Tiger and Jesse most of these women are “star Fu****s” and they knew that at some point they were going to be caught. And have all taken advantage of their 15 mins. Cheater + Liar = Loser!!! !!!

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