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How would you handle going through a publicly humiliating affair? Would you forgive your lying, cheating husband?

After facing public humiliation by husband Jesse James, Sandra Bullock has completely disappeared! Sandra has cancelled both her London and Berlin premieres of The Blindside and has completely fallen off the radar. We really want Sandra to get heal and get better, so we asked relationship coach Dr. Doris Jeanette what the Best Actress winner needs to do to get back up on her feet.

First off, stop feeling humiliated! And while that may seem hard, we are ALL on your side, Sandra! According to Dr. Jeanette, “He’s done what he did and that’s on him. What does [Sandra] have to be embarrassed about?” Dr. Jeanette explains, “This is a case where women react, rather than having a sense of self that’s strong enough to see them through.” Sandra’s reaction was to go into hiding, but we want her to find the strength to face her scheming husband!

But in order to gain her inner strength, “[Sandra] has to take responsibility for not being aware, it’s not all one sided,” the relationship coach explains, “[Sandra] should ask herself, ‘What do I need to be doing differently so that I’m strong enough to be okay with or without [Jesse].”

While a divorce seems like the probable path, Dr. Jeanette says Sandra, 45, has got to forgive Jesse, 40, at some point- for her own sake!

“For her own sanity [Sandra] must forgive,” Dr. Jeanette explains, “[It] doesn’t mean you stay with him, however you don’t get rid of him because of a knee jerk reaction.”

We think Sandra should take all the time she needs to heal and re-group. Stay strong Sandy!