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A Relationship Coach Tells HollywoodLife.Com How Sandra Can Cope With Her Husband’s Public Infidelity

Tue, March 23, 2010 12:11pm EDT by 1 Comment
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Sandra, we know how hard this must be for you, but an expert says you CAN move on! Here’s how.

After discovering that her husband, Jesse James, cheated with stripper Michelle ‘Bombshell’ McGee on March 17, Sandra Bullock cancelled both the London and Berlin premieres of her Oscar-winning film, The Blind Side, and seems to have disappeared entirely! But is she OK? We asked relationship coach Dr. Doris Jeanette how Sandra can face the world again and move on.

For starters, Sandra, 45, does NOT need to feel humiliated. “He’s done what he did and that’s on him. What does she have to be embarrassed about?” Dr. Jeanette inquires, adding, “This is a case where women react, rather than having a sense of self that’s strong enough to see them through. In this case, Sandra’s reaction has been to go into hiding.”

But what should Sandra do now, and when should she feel safe enough to resurface? “[Sandra] has to take responsibility for not being aware, it’s not all one-sided,” the relationship coach explains. “[Sandra] should ask herself, ‘What do I need to be doing differently so that I’m strong enough to be OK with or without [Jesse].’”

Now that TMZ has reported that both Sandra and Jesse are both interviewing prospective divorce lawyers, it’s looking unlikely that the two will rebuild their relationship, but Dr. Jeanette says that Sandra must eventually forgive Jesse, 40.

“For her own sanity [Sandra] must forgive,” Dr. Jeanette explains. “[It] doesn’t mean you stay with him. However, you don’t get rid of him because of a knee-jerk reaction.”

We think Sandra should take all the time she needs to heal and re-group, and do what she needs to do to make herself strong again – including giving her philandering husband the boot! Stay strong, Sandy. You’re a winner – with our without an Oscar!

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