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BONNIE SAYS! Sandra Bullock — Stop Hiding! Here's How To Get Sweet Revenge!

Tue, March 23, 2010 6:59pm EDT by Chloe Melas 26 Comments

BONNIE SAYS! Sandra Bullock — Stop Hiding! Here's How To Get Sweet Revenge!

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Sandra – it’s enough already. You need to stop cancelling your European Blind Side premieres, and acting like you have something to be ashamed of!

No more tail between the legs Sandra! You’ve done nothing wrong. You didn’t cheat! You didn’t sleep with a skanky Nazi admirer. You didn’t embarrass your mate and your children.

No, you were a loving supportive wife who thanked your husband effusively for “having your back” and “coming to awards shows” and for being “hot.”

You have every right to be heartbroken, angry, embarrassed, hurt and completely and utterly furious. No one would blame you if you took all his clothes and dumped them out on the street or if you just accidentally happened to drop your Oscar onto the fender of Jesse’s red Ducati — OOPS!

But what would be even better is if you uncanceled your canceled European premieres of Blind Side, got yourself all dolled up in a classy, sexy gown — see our suggestions — held your head high, smiled and proudly walked in front of you cheering fans. And believe me, they would cheer like crazy! You would feel the love. I know our HollywoodLife.com readers love you and are there for you.

Every woman has been through their own version of an awful breakup. We can ALL sympathize!

“Sandra — do what’s right for yourself. Go to your premieres because you are the best Oscar actress winner. This more than Jesse or ‘Bombshell’ can ever have,” says reader Josette.

And she’s right! Why should you hurt your career in any way because of Jesse’s lowlife behavior.

Oh, and when you walk that red carpet, pull an Elin — DON’T wear your wedding ring, and make sure all the photographers can see it. That ringless finger is a ladylike version of giving Jesse and Michelle the finger!

Whatever you do Sandra DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT blame yourself for Jesse’s cheating for one nanosecond! “Men don’t cheat because they want to have sex with someone sexier or prettier. They do it because they are threatened by someone who is outshining them and they pick women who are easily available,” says Amelia Parry, editor-in-chief of TheFrisky.com.

Sandra —you have no control over Jesse’s pathetic insecurities!

Now Sandra, this should be your time of triumph. Despite Jesse, you’re no doubt getting deluged with scripts. X17.com says you’re considering a film co-starring your “lesbian lover” Meryl Streep. That’s great!

Pick a great film. Throw yourself into work. Spend time with the people who love you.

But also, go out to some highly public events with gorgeous single eligible Hollywood bachelors who’d love to spend some time in your company — like Jake Gyllenhaal, Ryan Gosling — your Murder By Numbers co-star — or Gerard Butler, who will flirt with you and make you laugh!” Show that you’re a strong, confident woman, Sandra” agrees Jo Piazza, PopEater.com columnist. “By going into hiding, you’re letting Jesse win!”.

Sandra — just pretend you’re Leigh Anne Tuohy — your Blind Side character.

What would she do? Hold her head high, get out of the house and kick that no-good soon-to-be-ex husband to the curb!

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I understand how you feel. My husband of 49 years and 4 months cheated on me for 2 years with a younger Serbian woman. Don’t ever blame yourself. You are young, beutiful, sexy and there are hundreds of men for you to love. Too late for me but definitely still lots of chance for you.

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Sandra,
It has nothing to do with you, it is his problem. I truly believe he loves you, I do, but he also competes with you and it is still his problem. People like Mr. Trump on the Apprentice, stick it to him about his rich, successful, beautiful wife. I heard him do it on national tv Jessie handled it extremely well, but i would have punched Trump out, he has a vicious side to him. I heard Jessie cheated, but if he did, it isn’t about you, it is about him and his insecurities, truly, it is. You are one of the smartest, funniest, most beautiful, successful, kindest, loving woman, I have so much respect for you. I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS FOR OVER TWENETY YEARS OUT OF 41 MARRIED YEARS. i LOVE HIM. AND NOTHING WRONG WITH ME IN THOSE CATEGORIES EITHER. hE JUST HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM, NEEDS HIS EGO PUMPED, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU DO IT, AND HE NEEDS TO LEARN TO RESPECT HIMSELF BEFORE HE CAN ANYONE ELSE. GIVE HIM A CHANCE, i KNOW HE LOVES YOU. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP. JESSIE GET TREATMENT AND GET WELL, LOVE HER, SHE LOVES YOU. DON’T LISTEN TO ANYONE ELSE, BUT YOU CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT, NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. YOU ARE THE ONE LIVING YOUR LIFE, NO ONE ELSE. I AM ALONE AFTER TEN YEARS OF HIM LIVING WITH SOMEONE ELSE AND DRINKING. I FINALLY GAVE UP, IT ABOUT KILLED ME WHAT I WENT THROUGH NOT EVEN REALIZING IT WAS EMOTIOANL ABUSE, STILL LOVE HIM, BUT HAVE TO LIVE WITHOUT HIM AS HIS BOTTLE AND WOMEN are more important. MINE THREW HIS FAMILY AWAY AND I TRULY THINK HE IS ASHAMED HE DID IT, BUT HE JUST CAN’T SEEM TO STOP. WON’T GO TO TREATMENT, COUNSELING HE DID GO WITH ME WAS A JOKE TO HIM. IT WAS A COMPETITION ON A SMALLER SACLE THAN YOURS. OH, LOOK AT DAVES HOME, DAVES CAR, LOOK WHERE DAVE TOOK FAMILY (ALL I HEARD FROM HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY) NEVER LOOK WHAT CAROL DID FOR HER FAMILY AND I DID IT ALL, HE DIDN’T HAVE THE MOTIVATION TO DO ANYTHING FOR US. GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH, DON’T LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING HOLD YOU BACK. LIFE IS TO SHORT, MINE SURE WENT BY FAST SANDRA. I AM 64 (YOUNG 64) BUT MY HEALTH WENT DOWNHILL DUE TO ALL THE STRESS i AM SURE AND GENTICS. I WISH ONLY THE VERY BEST FOR YOU. SO MANY PEOPLE TRULY LOVE YOU, BUT WE DON’T LIVE WITH YOU, DON’T CRAWL IN A HOLE AND BE ALONE, BE WITH SOMEONE AND KEEP BUSY. SEE JESSE OR NOT, ITS UP TO YOU. I SEE WHAT YOU SEE IN HIM, I DO. IF YOU LOVE HIM, THEN STAND BY HIM AND HELP HIM IF YOU CAN. IT IS HARD TO BE ALONE MUCH LOVE, CAROL

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Funny, this is the SECOND Hollywood husband caught having an affair with a tattooed SLUT; the first, of course was BRAD PITT. I don;’t recall HIS WIFE getting as much sympathy…and the tattooed SLUT was LAUDED and APPLAUDED. So, what’s the difference NOW?

Certainly no wonder that open man-stealing, infidelity, and kiddy-whoring are full-on pastimes in HW like never before! And nobody need be ASHAMED, eh? Why does Jess get reviled and Brad Pitt APPLAUDED, eh? What’s sauce for the goose… or something to that effect!

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Jennifer put some choice words out for Brad. I believe she told Oompah that Brad lacked a “sensitivity chip”. And she said something like, “Brad, Billy Idol called. He wants his hairstyle back.”

Why isn’t Julia Roberts reviled as a man-stealing b*tch?

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agreed! all the man steelers should be slapped around not just the unpopular ones.What about Tori Spelling, she stole someones husband had his baby and then set up a reality tv show to rub it in some more. What class!

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@MUCKRAKER Posted at 9:48 AM on March 25, 2010
You wrote that Sandra made a mistake by marrying Jesse and I couldn’t disagree with you more. She married him because she was in love with him, trusted him and decided to take the risk. He turned out to be a louse but that doesn’t mean Sandra made a mistake. He made a mistake by disregarding his marriage vows.

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Well, Bowchickawawa, your logic could not be more flawed. Sandra could have stayed in love with Jessie and trusted him and gone through thick and thin with him, without marrying him. He might have still eventually cheated, but it wouldn’t have been nearly as humiliating for her. Their pre-nup gave him incentive to stay in the marriage and just cheat.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s his fault. There is obviously something wrong with his character. I don’t know if Sandra just didn’t see it, or what. But she miscalculated the risk in marrying Jesse. in other words, She made a mistake about the risks to herself.

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Sandra, if I knew where you were hiding out, and if it didn’t make me seem like a creepy stalker, I would stand outside your front door and cheer as loud as I could, for as long as it took to get you out with your head held high. I can only imagine how difficult it is to have the intimate details of your marital crisis aired out on national news, in print and on the internet. I’ve had some doozies with my husband and they were cringe-worthy enough with just he and I being the only ones to bear witness.
I read another open letter to you where the writer refused to pity you because you are too good for that and I really dug what she had to say about you. I don’t think she knows you personally but in this age of celebrity we civilians feel like we know certain celebs fairly well. You have always been a warm, friendly and accessible woman, one who seems comfortable talking humbly about yourself, which leads many to feel like you’re an old friend. I agree with the other letter writer in that you are too classy, intelligent, funny, beautiful and kind-hearted to pity. Empathy and compassion, yes. Pity, no. You will be ok and you will make it through this. All things are temporary, sometimes even marriages and trust which is disheartening but it has to be that way so that the pain caused by another is also temporary. Everything is dynamic, all things change and evolve. This too shall pass.
If by chance, you are sorting things out in western CT, I’ve got a pair of ears to listen, a couch to lounge on, a nice Bordeaux to drink and a couple pints of Hagen Daaz with your name on ‘em! Be well Sandra and know that there are thousands, if not millions of women worldwide who are sending their love, support and prayers your way. Whatever you decide to do, you have my support!

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Jesus woman. She’s not “hiding”. She’s grieving and trying to process. You do realise this happened like SECONDS ago, right??

Unlike YOU seem to, perhaps she didn’t think of her marriage as superficial, expendable and easily gotten over?

Why don’t you back off and give the woman some time and space, instead of throwing out useless, and ridiculous, “advice”.

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I’m with you, NOPE. LEAVE THE LADY ALONE, SHE’LL DO WHAT’S RIGHT FOR HERSELF. SHE NEEDS TO HEAL.

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Hey Sandra,
We got your back girlfriend. Kick his ass to the curb, he is a jerk that is not worth nothing now. He showed his true colors and not it is time for you to bask in your oscar glory. There are so much Mahi Mahi in the sea. Time to chill out and then go fishing.

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I don’t have much respect for this Bonnie lady. I guess she’s typical Hollywood gossip columnist without a heart and conscious. Sandra Bullock can choose to take whichever healing method she likes and just because she’s canceling events doesn’t mean she’s “hiding” or has anything to be ashamed of. There’s no point for Bonnie to jump up and pretend to be the girl-power advocate. I know this is show business, but geez, can’t you just leave someone alone when she’s obviously hurt?

This is not the first time I felt this way about Bonnie. Last time was some piece on Kate Gosslin that was obviously trying too hard to stir up trouble. I guess she really need to make a name for herself (considering this hollywoodlife site doesn’t really have a lot of traffic) so she’ll say anything just to generate some buzz. There’re many ways to do it with class you know, say, stay fresh and smart when you comment on other people.

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Sandra would not want her fans to cheer her like crazy simply because her husband is a louse. And she wouldn’t be desperate to feel the love; she hasn’t done anything to make anyone hate her. She doesn’t want or need revenge; she made a big mistake marrying Jesse, but she won’t blame anyone else for that mistake as some witless idiot would do.

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Sandra, you are soooo talented and gorgeous, PLEASE DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE WHO QUITE SIMPLY DOES NOT CARE AND DOES NOT APPRECIATE WHAT HE HAS/HAD.

I AM SURE THERE WILL BE VERY NICE AND CONSIDERATE MEN KNOCKING ON YOUR DOOR. START GOING OUT ON DATES AS YOU DID AS A TEENAGER AND LAUGH.

IT TAKES MORE ENERGY TO FROWN THAN TO SMILE, WHY WASTE ENERGY????

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…and whatever you say bonnie…..it is not so easy …..Sandra needs time to collect herself – it was a big chocker….she cannot just dump out with men and nighclubs and redcarpets-events – it is not her at all, she will come out when time is right, you will see…and sandra is not out for revenge or so ……she will come out and become much better than before…right now she is thinking back – what happened? and she now understand the red flags there came out down the way before this bombshell came out, and she acknowledge she was not prepared for what there was coming..- she needs time..mimi

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sandra does not have to face anybody…..she is coping…and when the time is right she will manege to get out again,,,,,,it was a serious blow, just let her be…… whatever she wants, she is in the driver-seat……mimi

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At this time she’s probably going through alot of emotions, trying to cope, it’s a shock, anyone going through this would be impacted by it too, this happened so quickly so she definately needs time to heal in her own way as the emotions are probably going in every direction.

This is when you want to spend time close with family and those you know you can depend on.

What happened wasn’t her fault, and she can remember to be strong and find confidence in the choices she made along the way because she wasn’t the one that did wrong in this, she did right.

She’s held her end as a loving supportive wife to him truely as any man dreams to have and it’s hard enough to imagine any man hurting a woman like her.

He shouldn’t have cheated on her, and since he did, as a husband he really should have been honest and told her up front he had feelings for another person before all of this turned out this way, especially if he had any respect for her, she shouldn’t have had to find out this way from someone else coming out about it like that.

There was nothing wrong with her going out and doing what she normally does and work on a movie and then get to enjoy a moment in life she deserves to enjoy as reward for her hard work.

The problem is when the husband communicates to another woman and opens relationship to her and doesn’t hold down the fort while his wife is doing her work until she comes home, the same goes for women too.

It takes inner strength, respect, and love for the other person and ones self to do this and fight the selfish temptation to take part in something knowingly that would hurt someone else or those closest to you.

The woman if he really cheated with her is no where near as beautiful as Sandra is, not by a longshot, he’s used very poor judgement, and Sandra didn’t so she should not feel bad about herself, but has every reason to be upset over the situation.

Sandra also has no need for any standard to live up too except for her own, no requirements or expectations, it’s not trivial, it’s her life, her feelings and emotions, nobody else to be content with other than herself, and I hope she finds this strength sooner than later and maintains the person she is inside and out, the movie and other stuff isn’t as important, those things are trivial, what isn’t trivial, is each moment in her life, like time spent with family. That’s something winning a trophy can’t give you.

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I understand exactly how she feels and she will appear in public when she feels the time is right. Right now she has been humiliated and I’m sure she doesn’t feel the least bit comfortable handling all the media and paparazzi she will be faced with. That is so so unfair that they do people the way they do. Sandra, you take as long as you need to back up and regroup. I have confidence that you will come back and shine the way you always have. I love you and I thank you for all the enjoyment you’ve given me over the years. I feel bad that someone has done you wrong. That person doesn’t deserve you. You are a precious unassuming woman who cherishes her privacy. Come back soon though. We do need to hear from you.

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Bonnie, I agree with you 100%. I wish someone had given me that confidence boost when I was going through the exact same thing. The sooner Sandra gets out there, the quicker she can get on with her life. The whole thing will hurt and suck for a while but time will heal. It really is like dealing with a death.

Still, I wonder what part of this whole mess did crazy Janine play. Seems too coincidental that just three months ago she lost custody of Sunny because of Sandra sticking up for that little girl. I know Sandra hurts for those children but she needs to move on now and let Jesse deal with the mess he’s created.

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It doesn’t matter who exposed the story – Jesse still did the lying, STD risky deedS that threatens to destroy his marriage (if Sandra comes to her senses, his marriage will be over). That doesn’t change the fact that everyone who knew him knew he was a cheater, that he cheated on all of his exes, that in 2000 one of his employees accused him of rape, or that in 2007 he had to pay a $700,000 sexual harrassment suit settlement by another employee. That you just have to hear him talk about women to hear what a neanderthal he is. Magazines don’t make him cheat, Sandra and all his exes didn’t make him cheat. He did all of this to himself again and again. The real question is when will Sandra take the blinders off or if she ever will have the courage to. He is what he is, it’s the women who keep wanting to play with fire or in this case STD Roulette.

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“With” another employee – not “by”

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When time heals Sandra, she should concider my feelings and how much I love ,care and respect her, and give me a chance to have what Jesse will always miss and never have again. I
Loved Sandy a very long time now.

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Tasteless, skanky and trashy Bonnie, that is what your vile and disgusting article is. You are NO DIFFERENT from that Michelle tramp. You should be ashamed of your article! SHAME ON YOU!

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WOW. What an article. I can’t fathom why some folks can’t get the fact that when a relationship suffers a blow like infidelity, it is akin to dealing with a serious illness or possibly a death. Why on earth would anyone anywhere on this planet knowing the kindhearted person Sandra Bullock is even contemplate writing such a piece, much less publish it! SHAME ON YOU.

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I think she should stand strong. face the paparazzi and give them hell, show that scheming tatooed stripper she can’t take the step children you love away from you, she can’t take your happiness away from you,she has been scheming for your husband for years and played the poor single mom needed comfort and work to get to him and we don’t know if 90% of what she said to get her picture on OK magazine was a lie as Jesse said. I would tell Sandra that she has a lot of anquish from her mother’s death and court battle for her step-daughter and putting all her eggs in the basket of Jesse James. He was suckered by this bimbo too.

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just b/c she’s hiding doesn’t mean she is embarrassed… i’d want to be left alone, too… who wants to be looked at with those, “i feel sorry for you” eyes?! she just needs to deal in a little privacy for a bit. she’ll be fine eventually.

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