Watch out! Could your man be a Tiger Woods, too? Here are 5 warning signs he could be up to no good, from Cosmopolitan Editor-in-chief Kate White! Plus, 5 tips to make sure your man sticks around forever!
- He becomes hypercritical of you! “A man will re-direct his guilt about cheating, and instead will put you down.”, says Cosmo’s Editor-in-chief Kate White. “If you ever raise suspicions that he might be cheating and he says, ‘God, you’re paranoid,’ be suspicious,” says Kate. If he’s not guilty he should reassure you.
- Paying more attention to his body than normal. If he’s suddenly working out more and caring more about his appearance more than he ever has before, that’s a huge red flag — we want him to look good, but not better than us!
- If he doesn’t want to include you in work functions. Men meet women in the work place and it’s a melting pot made for cheating! Think David Letterman at the office. Think Tiger away on the golf circuit. “If he doesn’t want to make you a part of his work life that’s not good,” says Kate.
- If he is very protective of his cell phone Listen up ladies! If he’s taking calls and having to step into another room, or if he never lets his phone leave his side be worried. “The phone is a connector. If he changes his tone or seems nervous when he’s on the phone around you that’s a huge indicator,” says Kate.
- He loses interest in sex. That’s weird because “guys want sex all the time,” dishes Kate.
Here are Kate’s tips on how to keep your relationship fresh:
- Have your own separate identity being a strong presence in his life is important, but having your own life is just as important.
- Make him feel great! Women talk about how we need our guy to say we look hot but, “You need to validate him too! By saying things like you look great,” advises Kate.
- Stay close to him. See him alot! “Guys want a shorter leash than they let on, call him and say, ‘Hey, I’m going to be in the area — let’s grab lunch, it’s been a while.’ It keeps you together,” confesses Kate. Also, it marks your territory so other women know to back off!
- Take the temperature on your relationship. Don’t be afraid to ask your man ‘Hey how are we doing these days?’ because relationships require work!
- Spice it up! Guys like variety. Grab him and throw him on the counter or on the washing machine, “guys like novelty,” says Kate!
Follow this advice and if he ever does step out — you’ll be onto him before he knows it! — Chloe Melas
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Posted at 1:00 AM on January 22, 2010
happen 01/11/10. Right before the holidays the man that i was living with started getting text messages from ”someone who cares” It gets better i found him on the computer looking at porn and questioned why he was viewing it and he said for entertainment. I should had been much more verbal about not wanting him to get into that enviroment. Then four days later I had to use his computer to get some of my documents and old emails for job search and long story short he had an account with adult friend finder, and various others. I got right into his account and he was having instant chat sex and then his emails where real distastful down and dirty xxxrated and another email was telling the gal that he comes into her town every so often and he was willing to make a special trip (same town where his Dr. office is at) and wanted to meet for discreet sex. After all the crying talking and trying to find common ground to start getting the relationship back to trust, respect and loyality, he said he did this because we had not been sexual for awhile and thought i was not intrested in the relationship! I informed him if I am living under the same roof I am still in the relationship! I WAS PRETTY ANGER, GRABBED HIS CELL PHONE AT SOME POINT OF ALL MY TEARS, WENT INTO TEXT MESSAGE AND FOUND OUT HE WAS ”someone who cares” and was texting his ex girlfriend. They were very xxxrated, casual and in one text it said at the end of it, we were friends before lovers to her. The texts were in the SENT BOX!!! I also notice the grooming thing going on, face, hair, clothes. I am devasted!! I gave up everything to be with him. He moved me to his home town in which was four states over. After trying to work it out I left after two miserable days. Thank God my best friend was one hour away in route back home, besides emotionally not being able to drive, i’m sitting here waiting for a week’s worth the ice storms to move on by, so i can get back to the last state i lived in which is where my siblings are at. I will die alone then get into another relationship, no one will rip my heart out EVER EVER AGAIN!