How shocked were you by John’s cruel behavior to his 9 year-old twins
Cara and Mady on the shocking Jon & Kate season finale, Nov 24? In a frightening “family time” moment with Jon Gosselin and his 8 kids, Jon showed his obvious self-described “immaturity” when he punished his twins for saying they like their mother, Kate Gosselin, who is currently embattled in a divorce from Jon, better. While making signs for a lemonade stand to raise money for volunteer firefighters, Cara and Mady, both 9, were fighting over markers.
At one point one of the twins said, “I like the stuff we do with mommy better,” and an infuriated Jon ordered both of them to stop coloring and go inside. ”I’m throwing your posters in the garbage and you’ll stay home with a baby-sitter while the rest of us go sell lemonade”, he threatened the stunned and crying little girls. As the two tearful twins were banished to the house, Jon gathered up the sextuplets and took them to sell lemonade while the paparazzi swarmed around!
Jon’s behavior is “wrong”, says Beverly Hills psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman. “He’s throwing a temper tantrum — he’s regressing and acting like a four or five-year-old who wants to get his way all the time and in the end he’s going to lose his children’s love.” Adds Lieberman, “Jon’s actually been regressing for months ever since the separation — acting out against Kate by having sex with other women, taking money from Kate’s account. The twins are old enough to know that Daddy is cheating, so of course they want to be with their mother!”
“Jon’s actions will also have the effect of making the children think that the mother really IS more fun, which will then destroy the relationship with the father,” agrees psychologist Dr. David Eigen.
This was TLC’s final episode of Jon & Kate Plus 8 — the last show they taped before Jon decided that the show was bad for his kids. While has Jon admitted, “I’ve learned I’ve gotta stop being a kid … I gotta grow up one day and take responsibility. [After the split from Kate] I felt like I was free.” He has to do more than admit that he needs to grow up … he needs to IMMEDIATELY do that! Berating his nine-year-old little girls for basically being upset about their family’s disintegration — a completely normal reaction — is immature and cruel!
It’s time for Jon to do more than bring roses to Kate during a mediation meeting. It’s time for him to put his children’s needs ahead of his own anger at Kate and his desire to experiment sexually.
As for Kate, she’s actually being remarkably mature about the whole situation despite the lemonade incident. In the same finale, she said, “He’s still their dad and I will never prevent him from spending time with them,” but added, at one point, “I do worry about his intentions [when he takes the kids out]. Is this a publicity stunt? I don’t want them caught up in that.”
Couldn’t agree with you more, Kate! —Bonnie Fuller